Thursday, October 2, 2014

Being Okay With What You Have

You know you are depriving yourself right? Your house is too small, you drive the wrong car, your clothes are from two seasons ago, your hair style is boring and let's face it, your vacation plans could do with some upgrading. You deserve it. You worked hard, you could die tomorrow, you need to live and spend money and enjoy yourself.
While we are all susceptible to a touch of "Keeping Up With The Joneses", it is high time we stop putting ourselves in cycles that can only beat us down. Sure I like a high end kitchen or a piece of jewelry from Van Cleef and Arpels like the next person, but I also understand I will most likely never spend $200,000 on a pair of earrings and I am okay with that. Believe it or not, I have met people in my time, that have been covetous of such things. I knew a young lady who lived in a very nice neighborhood and a very nice home with a pool and she was angry her parents did not try to live in a more tony area with better houses.


The way we are told to constantly want is disgusting and brutal, especially to the younger generations growing up with technology that lets them order anything at a snap. Will these youngsters be able to actually do anything themselves God only knows, but I have hope.

I do read a lot of simple living/frugal/homesteading blogs because it is a topic that interests me. Concepts of money are seriously lacking in all groups and any bit of knowledge helps. One are I think women are most susceptible is the wardrobe.

I remember being a teenager and going to the mall, working there as well, and spending money on the latest fashions. I was careful not to spend too much, who doesn't love a bargain, but at the same time, I was also easily swayed by what the fashion magazines told me I needed to have and how I should look. Note to all women: when you look at a model remember, doing your makeup or hair that way or buying those particular jeans will NOT make you look like them in any way. If only my fifteen year old self had understood that better.

These days my clothing and show collection is far from what it was in my twenties. Sometimes I am sad but mostly I am fine. I do need better ways to accessorize, but that is on my and what I have. There are tons of fashion blogs out there, even minimalist ones, but some of them are all about the pricey trends or too hardcore or too black and white monochrome for me. Anyway, my rambling point here is this morning, I just discovered a wonderful blog that makes paring down your wardrobe a fun experience. The owner of the blog, Courtney, states, "Project 333 is a minimalist fashion challenge that invites you to dress with 33 items or less for 3 months."
That is absolutely doable. Check her Getting Started page and roll with that.
Her message is simple. Clothes do not define you. They do not make you a better person or make you less than. Buying a $300 pair of jeans will not change your life except add more debt. You are worth more than that because the best things are not things.
I can get behind her ideas because people are made to feel like shit enough these days. Experiences are more important, living is more important, not going broke to do such a thing, even more important.
So if you have the time, like I will later, read through her entries, see what grabs you and maybe feel better about pairing down or letting go or learning how to without remorse. I like her idea of taking pictures of a sentimental piece of clothing you do not wear then giving it away. Sometimes a sweet memory is all we need.



  1. Great post, Fifi!

    I love the vintage/second-hand shopping fashion blogs - like Vintage Vixen, and Helga Von Trollop. They both sew some of their own clothes, too, often from things like second-hand sheets!

    When I worked full-time and earned a bit money, I was spending like crazy - to make myself happy because it was so stressful. These last three years have been pretty darned great. Yes, we're quite broke, but we can pay the mortgage and utilities. I have always shopped second-hand, but do more than ever now.

    Thanks for that link - I'll check it out!

  2. I love good second hand and I admire those that can whip things up with a sewing machine. I have tried, but have not been able to really practice so my hems are atrocious! LOL

    Will check the blogs you mentioned out.