Friday, June 29, 2012

Fun Friday

I have become a touch obsessed with my Spotify account. I have created some serious play lists. I use Pandora too and if I hear something I dig, I grab it on Spotify and put it on my list. When I get a new car one day, I want both of these in said car. Here are a few songs I recently downloaded along with some fun links.

Wire - Ahead

Wonder Stuff - Wish Away

Duffy - Mercy

Clan of Xymox - Obsession

Bronski Beat - Hit That Perfect Beat

Front 242 - First In First Out

Antoni Gaudi apartments - love his work

Rhubarb Crumb Squares - I don't make stuff like this because the hubby won't eat it, but they look yummy. From Mennonite Girls Can Cook

Kathy Ireland's retreat in France. Yes, I am jealous.

I could not love this house anymore. A Country Farmhouse

Have a great weekend!


Thursday, June 28, 2012

Define Normal

I am one of the few people in the free world who has chosen not to read "Fifty Shades of Gray".  I did peek at it on Amazon and still marvel that this poorly pieced Twilight rip-off is making the author very rich, but God does have a strange sense of humor. Anyway, the reason I am bringing the book up is because the other night at a work out class a woman asked another about the series of books and her final question was "Does he finally become normal?"

It bugged the ever loving hell out of me.

What's normal? Missionary position only? No talking? I hold the author a little responsible. When you base a book on another book and use the same "send the frail needy heroine to rescue the brooding man before he falls" premise tied up (nice pun there) with BDSM as a "bad" thing, which indicates to me that she has never read a good Joey W. Hill novel, well, I am at a loss.

I will never understand why anyone thinks BDSM is abnormal.You may not want to be tied up, call your significant other Master or Mistress, have a two foot dildo shoved up your bum or have safety words, but those that do, they are healthy adults. Not everyone that likes to indulge in a little kink has a dark past or abuse issues. Sure some do, but there are also very devout Christians who have dark pasts and maybe only have straight boring sex. See where I am going here? Normal is all relative. Again, have not read book so I am not sure if he is a sadistic prick, but I doubt half the world's population would be swooning over Christian Gray if he was. Like other readers I do enjoy an HEA now and then, but wouldn't it have been more interesting if she met him, became enraptured of his world and when chosen as a submissive for someone else who then wants to turn her into a switch where she is also a Mistress? Now THAT can bring on some serious conflict and desire. This may have happened, I have no idea, but think of the possibilities. Look, I know people loved the book and whatnot and maybe, just maybe, she has spiced up some bedrooms, but in the end, BDSM practitioners will still be viewed as abnormal freaks or broken and that is just absurd. 

Let me add, I wished I had trained to be a Domanitrix. There is something amazing about that power. The plus for me is that sex was not required. Submissives can touch as much as you want or not at all. I could smack someone around if that is what they wanted or just talk to them while they wear a blindfold. It is all about giving someone a safe outlet/place for their fetishes. Trust is important and I would have enjoyed that. 

Just in case you are interested in BDSM and were afraid to search on it, here is some stuff to enlighten you.

The Society of Janus has some excellent info and classes like Make Your Own Leather Paddle.

Check out this documentary BDSM: It's Not What You Think.

Find your local BDSM scene by state here.


Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Cottage Food Law

Quick post here. Seems you can now bake bread and sell it at your farmer's market without the USDA and other government agencies demanding you have a food grade kitchen.

From the Urban Homesteading Blog: Cottage Food Bill

Have been writing A LOT. Whoo hoo! Relief and anxiety all rolled into one there, but it is finally moving along and I thank God for that. Will be back with a proper post soon.


Thursday, June 21, 2012

Grammar Dilemma

As a writer, I struggle with all sorts of things grammatically. One of those lovely struggles I probably learned about in English class, but have forgotten, like diagrams, wretched things, is the apposite phrase. 
Moira Allen posted a great piece about the differences and difficulties on

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Pixar Story Rules (one version)

A friend forwarded this about Pixar Story Rules to me and wrote "Seems like good advice (at least to a non writer like myself)".  I found all the story rules dead on and a few stood out. especially the two I will discuss here.

I am sure other writers find this hard like I do:  
#8: Finish your story, let go even if it’s not perfect. In an ideal world you have both, but move on. Do better next time.

You hope to do better, but you panic, thinking you are crap. Then when crap gets published by others and does well, you wonder why you are worrying. We all have our own standards, do not lower them or try to use someone else's to get to where you are going. Must remind myself to move on everyday and not worry about "perfect". Perfect slows you down, screws you up and delays you from having someone actually looking at your manuscript.

That being stated so well some of you readers know I have been rewriting/editing a book about a Bounty Hunter I started a few years ago. The synopsis, which I suck at writing and will be doing a new one, had been sent out and rejected. The thing is, I so believe in the story that I may self publish it or once I redo it try with agents again. Self publishing is a whole other fear, but that can be dealt with if the time comes. As for the Angel of Death book, which I pick up when I get stuck with the other one, and FYI I would not necessarily recommend working on two things at once, I began to realize my characters voices were lacking a lot of oomph and was not really theirs so I had to trash some scenes and it did help.  
The thing is, you forget that you are telling a story and it does not have to be perfect or always eloquent. Sometimes a simple phrase spoken like, "Yes I know." can have a bigger impact then three lines of emotional drivel shelled out by the character. Simple and to the point can engage the reader easier than some National Spelling Bee words. Guetapens anyone? it is goog to bond with your thesaurus, it is not good to use words the majority of us would need to pull out a dictionary for.

Truth right here: 17: No work is ever wasted. If it’s not working, let go and move on - it’ll come back around to be useful later 

Yup, know what that is about. I have ideas notebook and half finished stories on my computer. Laugh with me please.

Even if you are already aware of these pointers that Emma Coats has been tweeting on how to create a story others really want to read, it never hurts to review and be reminded and most of all, be inspired.

Good luck!


Monday, June 11, 2012

Pureed Cauliflower

Things have been a touch busy here at Chez MissFifi. Yard work, house stuff, baking, cooking, baby and actually being social. I am not complaining in the least, just exhaling really.
This past Friday we made the trek to Wegman's in Bridgewater and I bought 2 gorgeous heads of cauliflower. This meant I could finally do a cauliflower puree recipe. I researched and ended up using this one from The Kitchn. Very tasty! I will actually be having some for lunch today as well. It was a side to mini salmon sliders, also purchased at Wegman's and also very tasty, and I made a nice mustard/mayo sauce. A simple and delicious dinner.
Sad to say I am turning into George R R Martin and am unsure when I will be getting back to my manuscript. (No dis to George at all, just more of a camaraderie of understanding in not being able to be obscenely prolific) This is because my baby is having all sort of fun going through a growth spurt along with teething. Mama has been exhausted. So much so I passed out at 9:30pm last night. 9:30. Good Lord. I can remember going to clubs at 11:30pm and not getting home until close to 4am. Cue Edith and Archie, "Those were the days!"


Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Homemade Granola Bars

I have been on a serious quest to find some delicious quick snacks to have on hand. There are times during the day where my mind begins to melt and my body believes sleep is necessary. This especially sucks when I am trying to write because I sometimes forget what I was going to do next in my own novel. Where did that character go and why is he now a she type of scenarios. Not really, but it makes for good drama eh? Plus the 5:45am wake up calls due to one little boy could be part of the issue, but he really is so darn cute so he gets a pass.
One of the snacks I have been considering making from scratch is the could be cardboard tasting if you do not do it right granola bars. There are many recipes out there. Some looked awesome and some were of that Martha Stewart intensity where you wondered where that woman had the time to even pee. But not this recipe I found. That is correct my fair-haired Goldilocks it looks just right. Wanna know why? Because I have ever single ingredient on hand. Rock on with my bad self.

Thank you to the choice blog EzraPoundCake for the recipe and I hope they turn out delectable.

Homemade Granola Bars


Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Washing Dishes. I am not kidding.

In the worlds of homesteading and sustainable living I would be a heretic, an outcast. Why? Simple. I do not know how to really wash dishes.
Stop laughing. I am serious. I am one of those who lets the water run, which offends many in other parts of the world as they were taught differently for reasons like scarcity of water or just plain conservation,  as she scrubs the grit and grime from the silverware and pots. My mom filled the sink, but I never paid attention because once she had a dishwasher it was all she used. Believe me when I say  I have attempted to fill the sink with suds but it never works. I eventually leave the water running as I rinse so that defeats any water saving purposes. My mother in law fills the sink with soap and to tell you the truth it grosses me out. You have all these things mixed together, soaking in the same water that you being to scrub in and then you are supposed to rinse in another sink or bin. It reminds me of when we take baths. When you think about it you are sitting in dirty water when it is all said and done. Hmmmm... I mean, do you let the dirty dishes pileup all day then wash them? How often are you scrubbing the sink from all the grime build up? This is stuff I need to figure out because winging it so far has gotten me in a bit of  mix. I need answers! Ha ha.
My husband prefers the dishwasher which is fine because we let it get full before we run it and then we use the air dry feature instead of heat dry.
When I decided to Google "washing dishes" or "How to wash dishes" I had no idea myriad of posts there were on the subject. I have so many options on how to do them that I am even more confused then ever.

This post on The Kitchn had their readers chime in on their techniques.

Rhonda at Down To Earth posted this little diddy and I blame this post, in a good way, for making me think about how I wash dishes by hand.

Cornell University has culled an immense archive to the art of Home Economics called Hearth. I have not found anything on dish washing yet, but give me time.

Do your own search and you will see how many opinions there are on this ever day task .

In the meantime I need to figure out if this is the one area I will never be fully "green" or "homesteady" in or if at some point I will achieve dish washing Nirvana.


Sunday, June 3, 2012

Foxgloves - Deadly and Lovely

I have a new found love for foxgloves and because of this I have chosen to grow them, on a mound, behind my hostas. Deer dislike foxgloves you see and so, to try and protect the hostas, better known as deer crack, I have planted some foxgloves. Aren't they stunning?? Pardon my propane tank in the background.

I would really like to get a whole slew of them going on that hill you see in the background. This falls under an area that we do not want to maintain much so I have planted foxgloves, astilbe, hostas and forget-me- nots there. I know the foxgloves need to be replaced as they are biennials, but that is okay. I see various colors just blowing in the breeze. Even though they are a very poisonous plant, it is where good old digitalis comes from. Yup, I am growing hearts medication. Regardless of their toxicity, I will have to mind them when the boy gets older so they may not always be in that exact spot. I am sure I can teach him not to touch the pretty flowers, but kids are kids and curiosity towards this plant can kill the cat, the child and the livestock. For now though, the look lovely and the bees are giddy.