Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Please teach your son to cook

I have no children.

Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let me be clear, I have no children, but I have been observant so much so over the years of friends with kids and strangers with kids that if I did have them I know what I would do and not do. I am certain every parent to be says this and then the nature of the child gets in the way.
One thing I am certain of though is mothers needs to teach their sons there is nothing "girlie" about knowing how to cook, clean or be considerate. This is something sorely lacking in our boys training and I am a little ticked off about it.
Most very devout religious blogs are clear on the roles of boys and girls. Boys learn to be the breadwinners, work the land, know how to do repairs, fish with buddies and be all around providers. The girl is taught to be a help mate, mommy, clean, cook, sew and do everything possible to keep the household functioning while always looking neat and pretty and giving it all up to our Lord Jesus Christ. Now, I am fine with that if that is your chosen lifestyle, but I am not a Titus 2 woman and let us be honest, if you have children, you will want a hand. I do not care if it is as simple as the father playing with his own kids or doing homework with them. You BOTH chose to have children, you need to share responsibilities. Too many mothers I know do more than their share of raising the kids and I find that sad. Mom needs a break, to reconnect with herself and the kids need to connect with their father.

What if you do not have kids?
Well then, this is where it gets tricky. If you both work, whichever person gets home first should start dinner. Does not matter what it is, just start the meal.

What if the woman is a stay at home wife?
You can still offer to do certain chores she may not have gotten to. Walk the dog, put in a load of laundry, fold it or even, yes, start dinner.
This of course will never work and all of it looks great on paper. The question is then, why do we, as women, fail to instill in our sons the need to really participate in their marriage as more than just a paycheck and love slave. (Hope you all chuckled here)
Men can do more then just take the dog for a walk or take out the garbage.
There seems to be this lack of concern for the burnt out mother or housewife. Do you really believe we live to wash dishes everyday? I love to cook, but that does not mean there are not days where I wish my hubby would get inspired to make one of his fabulous Indian dishes.
Society tells us we have to tiptoe around the working man, but not the working woman. Men and women have it very hard. There are distinct roles given, some unfair, some not balanced at all. The bottom line for me is that I think boys and girls should not be set in gender roles nor should they shy away from something if they have an interest. If I had a son he would know how to make bread from scratch, so would our daughter, but she would also know how to use a drill. Knowledge is power and I think we all fail to remember that sometimes.


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